Sometimes I wonder is sex an important factor in a relationship. There are some couples who does not engage in this love making process while some are simply addicted to eachother. So will bad sex ruin a relationship? Will good sex strenghten a relationship?
When thinking about sex, things like orgasm, heat, sweat, sexy, steamy, enjoyment should pop into our minds. However, what if things turn sour and all you can think of when we talk about the word "sex" is, routine, pain, chore, agony, blood, can't wait for it to be over...?
I am sure no one like the latter. Who will want this sacred love making process be something so horrible? I don't.
I gotta agree that sex has got to do with how much you love that person. The more you love that person, the better sex will be. Why do I say this? Imagine. If you do not love a person that much anymore, you wouldn't even have put in much effort into anything that has got to do with that person. Ie, doing things for the person, trying to please that person and make that person happy. Many things will be very much discounted. For example, you will not be able to kiss the person passionately like before cos in the first place, there could possibly be not much passion already. Being a good kisser is a mutual thing. Its just like the theory, "you need both hands to clap". If one kisses passionately with the other being like a dead fish, the passionate one will lose interest in being passionate thus killing the atmosphere or even ruining what you call foreplay.
Take into consideration if you have really bad sex in you relationship with all other elements (elements meaning emotional support etc) being held constant, shouldn't sex be a considering factor? Are you willing to put up with all the painful sex for the rest of your life? **PLEASE SAY NO!!** Do something, be it talking about it or even go find yourself a better someone, don't suffer in silence!! Sex gotta be pleasurable!!
What if you have a few choices and found out that Choice A gives you good emotional support and Choice B makes good love? Slap yourself for being a two-timer and let go of both cos you are not worth it at all. Haha~! Sorry for being mean but I believe in monogamy and I am sure you can find someone who can make good love and give you good emotional support at the same time.
Back to the question, will bad sex ruin a relationship?
Most of the time, relationships turn bland or sour because of arguments, differences, emotions etc. Such arguments, differences and emotions may weaken the bond between couples which may result in good sex turning into bad sex. In another words, bad sex are excuses people give when there is an existing problem in a relationship. Those existing problems are problems I regard as what people refuse to acknowledge. There is no such thing as bad sex partner, its a matter of willingness, bond and feelings.
With great sex, great love and great bond, that couple is formidable. Bad sex, no love and weak bond, just a little nudge will break the relationship.
Size doesn't matter, its all about love. Love is something you can't deny, you can try shove it aside but it will not go missing henceforth. Never hide your love for someone. Love is meant to be shown. Love conquers all!!
I wonder if I am making sense... but I am tired already...
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With Love, Jas 1:09 AM