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Welcome To My Secret Garden
Friday, June 11, 2004
A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.
Dave Meurer, "Daze of Our Wives"
Isn't his saying so very true... don't you realise if two person are so similiar and they understand each person so much.. it seems that their relationship is so perfect... BUT.. come to think that they understand eachother so much that they no need to communicate as much as other couples with many differences in character.... simply, they know what they think is going on.. they know!
Imagine there is this couple.. both workaholics.. even after marriage, i don't think they will last long.. both will be concentrating on their individual carreers that they have no time to spare for eachother...problems will be more likely to arise..
Imagine another couple who are comfortable with eachother despite the differences in their goals in life.. wife just wanna look after the family well.. husband looks after the family as a whole.. providing with shelter, money, food, love etc.. this couple will more like going to last longer...
What i am trying to say is that you don't have to look for a person who has the same hobbies, personality etc.. you just need some one who you think you have not much problem living with, communicating to, and you would like to share your everything with him/her.. Marriage/Relationship is all about give and take.. one must be willing to give.. and the other willing to accept.. it is simple.. but many miscontrue it to be complex..
Sometimes, come to think that having a few failed relationships in life is not a bad thing also.. you may be sad, heartbroken, feel like dying.. but its not the end of the world.. it is the time you learn from it.. it is a start of a better relationship ( that is if you learn fom your mistakes in your broken relationship )...
It takes 2 hands to clap.. if one party is not willing to salvage the relationship.. there is nothing the other can do.. sighZ.. love is such a mystery.. it can make one go on cloud no.9... at the same time it can smash someone's confidence, will to live etc.. as what they say "shui ke zai zhou ye ke fu zhou" this is one of the hard facts we have to learn in life...
An advice for those in a relationship ( i'm refering to girls.. i'm biased ).. treasure and enjoy all you have but have to be careful at the same time.. We must learn to protect ourselves.. guys on the whole cannot be trusted.. they may say one thing but act otherwise.. "fang ren zhi xin bu ke wu" if you were ever hurt by someone... dun let that someone or another person hurt you the same way again!! Learn from your mistakes.. that's what we are here for!
Don't deceive yourself and make youself love that person you are "suppose" to love... Love only the one you love... and remember you can only love one person at a time ( as in BGR ) Speak your mind never bottle things in your mind as it will create a snowball effect and by the time you realise.. nothing can be done to salvage your relationship already..
I'm kinda long-winded today.. that's because i am bored.. haha.. suddenly thought of some things, then thought maybe can share with you peepZ!
Sometimes i really hate the word "love".. but i always love it in the end of the day... with love, i had the happiest days of my life... with love, i had the most devastating days of my life... but come to think about it.. without all these ups and downs.. my life will be yet another boring day...
No matter what it is like... this is yet another day of my life.. and as days go by, all will be yet another compilation of the days of my life..
With Love, Jas 5:13 PM
Jasmin Kee
CHIJ-OLGC, Cedar Girls' Sec Sch, CJC, SIM
jas2104@hotmail.com
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